Since I was knee high to a grasshopper, my family would tell me, “Deborah Jan, just you wait, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Ever since then, I’ve looked on both sides of every fence wherever I go.
Once we moved to the country, I found a LOT of fences. We recently tore down a long row of fencing to make room for more hay (and, hopefully, more money once it’s baled and sold). I walked along every foot of fence row and this investigative reporter can honestly say the grass is as green on one side as it is the other.
As an adult, I didn’t really believe the grass was different on one side as the other, but I came to learn our expectations make us think that somewhere else our circumstances will be better. The original proverb means to say that the things other people have or their situations always look better than our own, even if they’re not.
We tend to hide behind fences … we want our privacy, protects our “secrets,” any number of excuses. But maybe, just if, we could tear down those fences and get to know the person on the other side, the problems of this world may not be so overwhelming. After all, God made each of us unique and special.
In today’s world everyone seems to make the mistake of comparing people and circumstances with someone else. We constantly hear what’s wrong with “them,” and “if we can change this,” everything would be absolutely perfect — well, it doesn’t work that way. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could forget about the “fences” in our lives and get to know what’s on the other side, without preconceived notions? Forgive me, but I, for one, think this world just may be a better place if we do.
“Whoever always looks for greener grass on the other side, will never be able to appreciate the green grass that was right under their feet the entire time.” (Anonymous)