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I look forward to time with my gal friends from the Big City.  A few weeks back I had lunch with my pal/gal (no, not “Sal”).  Always a hoot — always entertaining – almost like going to a movie (the only thing missing is the popcorn).  However, when her tone turns serious, I take note.

My friend’s husband (as well as my friend) have been going through a long journey — his serious health issues.  These trying times can either brighten or diminish us from becoming the gem God created us to be; it all depends on our reaction to the storm.  In her case, he has experienced a 180 degree turn in his relationship with Jesus, his wife, and all his relationships on earth.  My friend told me she always loved her husband, and he her, but now she has seen such a change in her husband, their love is now  deeper and purer, almost too difficult to express in words.  I can relate.

I’ve shared before of a time in our own life when I was faced with a decision.  Hubby and I were at the bottom of a very deep pit and looking up I couldn’t see the light of day.  The choice – do I leave him or do I stay with him “in sickness and in health, for better or worse, till death do us part?”  I had made a commitment to him, to myself, to God, in front of others – do I say, “well, it’s OK for me to break my commitment in THIS case.”  I chose to stick it out.  I didn’t want to.  My feelings were telling me exactly the opposite.  But I made the decision and the emotions followed.

I learned that love is a decision and requires action.  I know true love is measured far beyond the thrill of the moment – it is respect, honor, trust.  I know that I know that I know that my darling hubby will be there for me whatever the future holds (and I for him).  Love at this depth is practically indescribable.

I disagree with Tina Turner when she sang “What’s love got to do with it?  It’s a second-hand emotion.”  Love has everything to do with everything – it’s the basis of any relationship, and the building block for families and societies.

What do you think?

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