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I Have Friends, article from Debby Efurd, CJM Ministries

In 2009, I went on my church’s choir/orchestra tour to Argentina. It was a fantastic trip, but I was really pushing the envelope for me to get outside my “comfort zone.”  What a trip! What sights to see! Everyone was taking pictures and posting on Facebook so their “friends” could stay up-to-date on the trip. Everyone had Facebook accounts, but little old me knew little about Facebook and had, at the most, 10 FB friends.  I remember thinking, “I wish I had friends.”

Fast forward to today and I can honestly say I have a few thousand “friends.”  The majority are acquaintances, not real, true blue friends. I learned recently the role of friendship according to scripture (1 Samuel 17:55-18:5).

There is no better example of a true friend than Jonathan was to David. Jonathan was son to King Saul, and the rightful heir to the throne. But David was God’s anointed one. Jonathan bore no jealousy toward David, not like Saul felt. Jonathan looked out for David and vice-versa. God provided this friendship for some dark days David would face. Jonathan provided direction, something all true friends do – looking out for one another.

True friendship is needed, it’s rooted in Christ, produces unity, and involves fellowship.True friends heighten our joy in God. True friends expose sin in us that keeps us from God. True friends encourage us to obey God. True friends bring us to God in our weakness. True friends love us for the glory of God.

True friends love unconditionally and can play different roles in the lives of others, such as mentors (godly people who have gone before us and show us the way (as Jesus does in John 13:1-20); peers: wise companions and friends who walk beside us (Prov. 13:20); and disciples: those of a younger generation that we train and serve (e.g. Titus 2:3, 4).

I may not have thousands of true friends (like on Facebook), but I can say I am blessed with true friends placed in my life by God.

John 15:13 “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
Proverbs 18:24 “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Proverbs 27:17 “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

Debby Efurd is co-founder of Cary John Efurd Ministries of Pittsburg, TX. She has been a contributor to Bound for Life and written numerous articles published in LifeNews, Christian Post and the Baptist Standard, and is the author of Go Tell It!  Debby can be contacted at  

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